What is moral kidnapping?How to deal with and refuse to be kidnapped by morality?

Those who suffer from depressive diseases will unconsciously say "suicide" to coerce others when one of their needs cannot be met. This behavior is "moral kidnapping".

• We need to consciously refuse to be morally kidnapped according to the situation.

What is moral kidnapping?

The so-called moral kidnapping refers to the phenomenon in which people use excessive or even unrealistic standards to coerce or attack others, and influence their behavior in the name of morality.

The great sage Confucius said: "It is forgiving! Do not do to others what you do not want to do to yourself."

It's not doing what you don't want to do to someone else, don't force it on others.

So, if I like to do something, can I apply it to other people?

• What you think is good may not be liked by others.
• For example, some people like to eat durian, and some people can't stand the special taste of durian.
• It's not a good thing if you give durians to people who don't like durians.

Therefore, do what you don't want to do to others carefully.

For something you enjoy doing, you also have to think carefully about whether other people can accept it.

Classic example of moral kidnapping

A certain young man was too tired from work and did not give up his seat to the 70-year-old man in time, and was accused by the old man of being immoral.

When did our initiative to let the seat become a moral kidnapping?Everyone has their own choices, everyone has their own needs to faceLife, If you are accused of being immoral for just one seat, isn't morality too narrow?

We should respect the old, but it does not mean that we can rely on the old and sell the old. As an old man, when others know how to respect, we should also be grateful. After all, as a stranger, he has no obligation to help.At the same time as this moral kidnapping, is the old man virtuous?

Every young person faces a fast-paced life every day, and the work pressure is very high. Some are for parents, some for love, some for family, and some for children. There are seniors and juniors, and every day is faced with an unpredictable tomorrow. He should give up his seat to the old man, but this is not a matter of course.

Every young person also has parents, and they were all treasures in the hands of their parents.Let me ask, the elderly also have children, if they encounter such a situation outside, how can they feel?What does the old man feel when they are also accused of being immoral?

What each of us needs is equality, gratitude and respect. At any time, please do not kidnap morality, because a truly virtuous person does not ask others to do anything, but others will do it for him.

The metaphor of moral kidnapping

Moral kidnapping to put a person on the moral high is like pulling a person out of a crowd to stand on a high platform and then using a tweeter to shout to the crowd below:

"Look at this man on stage, he is an unselfish person who is committed to benefiting others. If you encounter any difficulties, he is absolutely obliged to help. His selfless dedication deserves respect and learning, A moral role model for a new era.”

In reality, this person may just be an ordinary person who occasionally does good deeds for others and is innocently caught to set an example.

Then he lived under everyone's watch every day.

And, if someone asked him for help, he still couldn't refuse.

Otherwise, people will say: You are a moral role model, you must help me, otherwise, how can you be worthy of everyone's respect for you?And how you can live up to the words "moral role model".

So far, the poor man has been kidnapped by morality.Despite his reluctance, he had to live in the shadow of a moral role model, do things he didn't want to do, and even lose himself.

This reminds me of the "catch the model and set the benchmark" in those years.

How to avoid being kidnapped by morality?

So, how to avoid being kidnapped by morality?

Under normal circumstances, although I do something beneficial to help others, I do not put myself in a high position, but I will never embarrass myself by the standard of a moral role model.

The case of rejecting moral kidnapping

If someone threatens us to give up our seat with moral kidnapping on the grounds of "you're a young man, you should give my seat to an old man".

Then, we can say this:

"I'm sorry, I'm not a moral model, I'm a selfish person, selfishness is human nature, please don't have the same knowledge as me."

Typically, moral kidnappings are for those who want to be the envy of others and fear that they will be considered immoral.

As long as you are willing to belittle yourself and act like I am just like this, sticking to my own opinions, you can be free from moral kidnapping.

"Because the earth is set low, it contains all things; because the Canghai is set low, it contains hundreds of rivers."

I'm just a drop in the ocean, so why put myself in such a high position and give others the chance to morally kidnap?

Since I don't want to be morally kidnapped, I also remind myself not to inadvertently engage in moral kidnapping.

The so-called "do not do to others what you don't want to do to yourself", this is the truth.