Fumanisa inyani ngesizathu sokuba kutheni iintsapho ezikudidi oluphakathi zisebenza nzima kodwa zingakwazi ukuphinda imfundo ephakamileyo

Kutheni le nto kunzima kangaka kwiintsapho ezikudidi oluphakathi ukuphinda imfundo ephakamileyo?

Yeyiphi eyona nkohliso inkulu yeentsapho ezikudidi oluphakathi? Bacinga ukuba logama nje benika abantwana babo ezona zixhobo zibalaseleyo neyona mfundo ibalaseleyo, baya kukwazi ukungena kudidi oluphezulu kwixesha elizayo. Kodwa inyaniso yeyokuba indlela sele izele zizidumbu.

Ingqiqo yemfundo yeentsapho ezikudidi oluphakathi: ukusebenzisa ukhuphiswano ukufumana ukuhlonipheka

Yintoni undoqo wemfundo ekudidi oluphakathi? Khuphuka unxunguphele. Vumela abantwana bakho bangene kwesona sikolo sabasaqalayo sibalaseleyo, bangene kwesona sikolo samabanga aphantsi, bathathe eyona mibuzo inzima yezibalo yeOlympiad, kwaye bakhuphisane nezona ndawo zifunwa kakhulu zezikolo ze-Ivy League. Lo mzekelo uphantse ufane nendlela yokuphila yabazali: ukutshintshiselana ngeziqinisekiso zemfundo zemisebenzi, ukutshintshiselana ngemisebenzi ukuze uhlonipheke, kunye nokuxhomekeka kwingeniso ezinzileyo kunye ne-real estate ukugcina inkohliso yokuba "i-social elite."

Yintoni abayoyika kakhulu? Kukuwa. Bayazi kakuhle imithetho yomdlalo kuluntu: ukuba abasebenzi ngokwaneleyo, baya kuwela ngasemva ukuba abahloniphekileyo ngokwaneleyo, baya kupheliswa. Ngoko ke, nokuba abantwana baye babandezeleka ngokufunda, baya kuthi: "Ngexesha elizayo, kufuneka sinyamezele."

Kodwa umbuzo ngulo, ngaba le yindlela abalinywa ngayo abakumgangatho ophezulu?

Ingqondo ye-elite: ukujonga phantsi, kungekhona ukunyuka

"Ndiyazi ukusuka ekubeni lihlwempu ukuya kwisityebi. Ngaphantsi kweminyaka elishumi, ndiya kuba ngumphathi!"

Lo ngumgca weklasikhi ovela kuZhang Guoli kwi-movie "1942", kwaye ikwayingcamango eqhelekileyo ye-elite: bayazi ukuba bathathe amathuba kunye nokudala ixabiso, kunokuba bathembele kwinkqubo yokuhlawula ngokwabo.

Yintoni undoqo wemfundo ephakamileyo? Akunjalo malunga nokufumana amanqaku aphezulu okanye iidiploma, kodwa malunga nokuphuhlisa ulwazi lwezoshishino, izakhono zokwenza izigqibo kunye noqhagamshelwano lomntu.

I-elite yokwenene ayiyi kugxila "kwindlela yokungena kwisikolo esihloniphekileyo", kodwa uya kucinga: "Ndingayilawula njani izibonelelo kunye nefuthe kwimithetho?"

Ke ngoko, indlela abakhulisa ngayo abantwana babo yahluke ngokupheleleyo kuleyo yodidi oluphakathi:

• Imfundo yodidi oluphakathi: Sebenza nzima ukufunda ulwazi, ukufunda nzima ulungiselela iimviwo, kwaye usebenzise amanqaku ovavanyo ukubonisa ukuba ukufanelekele ukungena kwisikolo esisemgangathweni kwaye ufumane umsebenzi osemgangathweni.
• Imfundo ye-Elite: Bavumele abantwana baqhagamshelane neshishini kwangethuba, bavumele baqonde imarike, kwaye bafunde ukufumana amathuba endaweni yokuwalinda nje.

Kungeso sizathu le nto abantwana abaninzi abavela kwiintsapho zabarhwebi banokuthi baqalise ishishini labo kwiminyaka yabo yeshumi elivisayo, ngelixa abantwana abavela kwiintsapho ezikumgangatho ophakathi basakhumbula amagama, benza imithambo, kwaye bathatha iimvavanyo ze-TOEFL.

Owona mahluko mkhulu phakathi koosomashishini kunye nabasebenzi: ukukwazi ukumelana nemingcipheko

Abantu abasebenzayoUbomi, yibhulorho eneplanga enye ebonakala ikhuselekile: ukuba nomsebenzi ondilisekileyo kunokugcina ubomi bomgangatho ophakathi. Kodwa xa udibana nokudilizwa, utshintsho kwishishini, iingxaki zempilo ... yonke into entle iyawa ngephanyazo.

Yahlukile koosomashishini. Endaweni yokubeka onke amathemba abo kumsebenzi omnye, bakha iindlela ezininzi zengeniso kwaye bathembele kwimarike kunomqeshi omnye.

I-Taleb ikhankanywe kwi-Antifragile:Abantu abomeleleyo ngokwenene ayingabo abo baphepha umngcipheko, kodwa abo banokufumana amathuba kwisiphithiphithi. Le yingcinga ephambili yabashishini - abacingi malunga nendlela yokukholisa umphathi wabo, kodwa malunga nokufumana abathengi kunye nokudala ixabiso.

Ingxaki ngeentsapho ezikumgangatho ophakathi kukuba imodeli yabo yemfundo ivelisa abafuna umsebenzi kwixesha elizayo kunokuba abalawuli bexesha elizayo.

Abantwana bosomashishini kunye nabakumgangatho ophakathi baya kuba nobomi obahlukeneyo xa bekhulile

Uthelekiso olulula:

• Oonyana babarhwebi: Ukususela ebuntwaneni, ndiye ndafunda indlela yokuqhuba ishishini kunye nokuqonda indlela yokusebenzisa izixhobo ukuze ndizuze imbuyekezo enkulu.
• Abantwana beentsapho ezikumgangatho ophakathi: Funda indlela yokufumana amanqaku aphezulu, ungene kwisikolo esilungileyo, kwaye ufumane umsebenzi ohlawula kakhulu kwixesha elizayo.

Ezi modeli zimbini zimiselwe ukubakhokelela kubomi obahluke ngokupheleleyo xa bekhula. Abangaphambili basetyenziselwa ukulawula ikamva labo, ngelixa aba bamva banokuzama kuphela ukusinda phantsi kwemithetho ekhoyo yomdlalo.

Esona sizathu siphambili sokuba kutheni iintsapho ezikudidi oluphakathi zingakwazi ukuphinda imfundo ephakamileyo

Ekugqibeleni, imfundo yodidi oluphakathi ibaluleke kakhulu malunga "nendlela yokuphumelela ukhuphiswano," ngelixa imfundo ephakamileyo imalunga "nendlela yokudala amathuba."

Ukudala amathuba, kufunekaJonga phantsi, hayi phezulu.

• Udidi oluphakathi lujonge phezulu: Bafuna ukuxelisa indlela yokuphila ekumgangatho ophezulu, bathenge iingxowa ezibizayo, kwaye bafunde ukukhwela ihashe, becinga ukuba oku kuya kubavumela ukuba bavumelane nesangqa se-elite.
• Usomashishini ujonge phantsi: Bajonga iimfuno zemarike kwaye benze iimveliso kunye neenkonzo ukuhlangabezana nezo mfuno.

Yiyo loo nto abantu abaninzi abanemvelaphi yezoshishino besakwazi ukufumana isiseko eluntwini nokuba abanaso isidanga kwiyunivesithi edumileyo. Ngenxa yokuba bayaqonda:Undoqo weli hlabathi asikokuphumelela isikhundla ngeemviwo, kodwa kukutshintshiselana ngexabiso.

Ifanele ibe njani imfundo yokwenene yodidi oluphezulu?

Ukuba intsapho ekudidi oluphakathi ifuna ngokwenene ukuba abantwana bayo babe ngabaphezulu kwixesha elizayo, yintoni abafanele bayenze?

1. Phuhlisa ukucinga kwezoshishino —— Vumela abantwana baqonde imarike kunokuba benze umthambo. Xa ubanika imali yepokotho, musa ukunika ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa bavumele ukuba bafumane iindlela "zokufumana" imali, njengokumisa ivenkile okanye ukwenza umsebenzi wexeshana.
2. Khuthaza ukungaphumeleli kunye nokuzama kunye nempazamo ——Abaphezulu bokwenyani bakhula ngezilingo ezininzi kunye neempazamo. Kunokuba ufumane amanqaku aphezulu, kubaluleke ngakumbi ukufunda indlela yokufumana impumelelo ekusileleni.
3. Yakha ulwazi ngenethiwekhi —— Ubutyebi behlabathi bulawulwa ngabantu abambalwa Amathuba okwenene adla ngokuphuma “kulowo ubaziyo” kunokuba “mangaphi amanqaku owafumanayo kuvavanyo.”
4. Vumela abantwana babone iindlela ezahlukeneyo zobomi —— Musa nje ukubaxelela ukuba “bafunde nzima, bangene eyunivesithi esemgangathweni, baze bafumane umsebenzi olungileyo”, kodwa bavumele baqonde ukuba banokuqalisa ishishini, batyale imali, baze bazenzele owabo umsebenzi.

Isiphelo: Kuphela ngokuguqula indlela ocinga ngayo onokuthi utshintshe ikamva lakho

Kukho intetho ethi:"Eyona ntlupheko imbi kakhulu ayikokungabikho kwemali, kodwa ubuhlwempu bolwazi."

Isizathu esibangela ukuba kube nzima ukuba abantu abakumgangatho ophakathi bawele ukuya kudidi oluphezulu kukuba basasebenzisa ingqondo “yabafundi abalungileyo” ukufundisa abantwana babo, ngoxa abona bantu babalaseleyo basebenzisa ingqondo “yoosomashishini” ukubumba isizukulwana esilandelayo.

Ukuba ufuna ukuba abantwana bakho bakhululeke ngokwenene kumjikelezo wangaphakathi kwaye beme kwiindawo eziphakamileyo zoluntu, kufuneka uphume kumgibe "womfundi olungileyo" wokucinga kwaye ubavumele baqonde ngokwenene indlela ihlabathi elisebenza ngayo.

Ngapha koko, olona viwo lubalulekileyo emhlabeni,Akunjalo malunga noviwo lokungena kwikholeji, kodwa malunga nendlela yokuba ngumntu owenza imithetho kumdlalo wobomi.