Isalathiso senqaku
- 1 Ukuba awumthandi umntu, musa ukumnyanzela ukuba angenele.
- 2 Sukuzithemba iisetingi zabantu ngokulula - okukhona zigqibelele, kokukhona kufuneka ulumke ngakumbi.
- 3 Ixesha lityhila isimilo sokwenene somntu - phambi kokuba nisebenzisane, yenza ubuhlobo kunye nexesha kuqala
- 4 Awusosixhobo sentlalontle, ungumntu
- 5 Ukuqukumbela
- 6 Isishwankathelo sokugqibela
Eyona nto yoyikeka kakhulu kunxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu "kukwenza ukhetho olungalunganga", kwaye eyona nto yoyikeka kakhulu kwintsebenziswano "kukwenza ukhetho olungalunganga"
Ndakhe ndacinga ukuba ukwazi abantu abaninzi kuya kundincedaUbomiNgoku, ndivakalelwa kukuba ukuba bendisazi abantu abambalwa, bendinokuphila ubomi obutofotofo.
Sidibana nabantu abaninzi ebomini bethu, kodwa bambalwa kuphela abahlala. Uninzi lwezinto ezikwenza udinwe, uxhalabe, okanye ungathandabuzeki ubomi bakho buvela "kwi-drain efihliweyo kubudlelwane."
Ngoko-- Sinokuyinciphisa njani ingxabano yangaphakathi kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu? Sinokuyiphepha njani imigibe ngokusebenzisana?
Ndishwankathele izivakalisi ezithathu, ezingamava azuzwe ngegazi neenyembezi. Isivakalisi ngasinye singakongela iminyaka emihlanu yobutsha.
Ukuba awumthandi umntu, musa ukumnyanzela ukuba angenele.
Ndandidla ngokuyithatha njengeqhekeza lesuphu yenkukhu. Ngoku? Ngumthetho wam wentsimbi wokuhlalisana.
Ingaba ithetha ntoni? Ngokulula: Ukuba umntu unemilinganiselo eyahlukileyo yaye uthetha ngendlela ekwenza uzive ungakhululekanga, ngoko akukho mfuneko yokuvana naye.
Awuyiyo i-router, kwaye akunyanzelekanga ukuba uqhagamshele kuyo yonke itshaneli. Ngokufuthi, siye sizinyanzele ukuba sithethe size sisebenzisane nabantu esingabathandiyo, size ekugqibeleni sizenzakalisa okanye siphoswe zizinto ezithile.
Abanye abantu bafana ne "negative energy wifi" -oko nje uqhagamshela kuyo, amandla akho aye ehla. Abanye abantu, emva kwencoko, bafuna ukuba ulale ebhedini iiyure ezintathu ukuze ululame.
Emva koko yima kwaye uzibuze: "Kutheni ndichitha ixesha lam kumntu ondenza ndidinwe?"
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu ayilombangi; Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ulubaleke lonke ugqatso nomntu wonke. Abanye abantu, ukunqwala kwanele; ubuhlobo obunzulu yinkcitha-xesha.
Sukuzithemba iisetingi zabantu ngokulula - okukhona zigqibelele, kokukhona kufuneka ulumke ngakumbi.
"Ubonakala njengomntu olungileyo." Ngaba esi sivakalisi sakha sakwenza wakhubeka?
Isicwangciso soonobumba sangoku sipakishwe kakhulu kuneUbuncwaneIvenkile yobungcali. Uyayibona le nto afuna uyibone, kwaye nenguqulelo esemva kwayo isenokungaqondwa nangunina.
Ngokukodwa xa usebenzisana,Abo “bakhangeleka begqibelele” bafanele bajongwe ngononophelo.
Bayayazi indlela yokuthetha ngokufanelekileyo, ukunxiba ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye babe nesangqa esilungeleleneyo nesiphucukileyo sabahlobo-kodwa ngaba uyayiqonda ngokwenene indlela abenza ngayo izinto, undoqo wabo wemilinganiselo, kunye nendlela abasabela ngayo kuxinzelelo?
Ungalibali, imboni enenzuzo kakhulu ngoku "yindalo yomntu." Abanye abantu banokude bachazwe njenge "engile yoncumo, ithowuni yelizwi, kunye nexesha losuku xa uthumela kwimizuzu."
Umntu ulusu nje; ixesha lityhila ubuso bokwenyani. Into yokuba umntu ekhangeleka ngathi yigolide ayithethi ukuba akayiyo iplastiki enegolide.
Ixesha lityhila isimilo sokwenene somntu - phambi kokuba nisebenzisane, yenza ubuhlobo kunye nexesha kuqala
Umntu omthandayo xa umbona okokuqala uya kukuphoxa; umntu ongamthandiyo ekuqaleni unokuthi uthembeke (kodwa hayi ngokupheleleyo).
Sonke sikhohliswa ngokulula kukuvela okokuqala. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi xa ukhangela iqabane. Kwangoko, wonke umntu unxibe "isihluzi somdla," kwaye yonke into ihamba kakuhle, ivakalelwa njengomdlalo ogqibeleleyo.
Kodwa intsebenziswano yokwenene kukubona ngamakhadi elinye iqela ekungavisisani okuphindaphindiweyo.
Ngaba banokuzamkela izimvo zakho ezahlukeneyo? Xa bejamelene nengcinezelo, ngaba bawuthwala kunye umthwalo okanye basuke nje babaleke? Ngaba banemvakalelo yokuba nembopheleleko, imvakalelo yesivumelwano, nobuchule bokuphumeza?
Konke oku kuya kuthatha ixesha ukuqinisekiswa. Musa ukukhawuleza ukusayina isivumelwano, qala ubone ukuba amaqabane akhe amadala kunye namaqabane akhe angaphambili bathini ngaye.
Abantu banokudlala, kodwa nabona badlali babalaseleyo abanako ukuwuthwala wonke lo mboniso.Ixesha lesona sibane sikhanyisayo, esityhila ubuso bokwenyani beentliziyo zabantu.
Awusosixhobo sentlalontle, ungumntu
Isitshixo ekunciphiseni ukusetyenziswa phakathi kwabantu kungekhona "ukujongana nabanye" kodwa "ukuzazi wena."
Awuyiyo ibhanki yamandla, ngoko akufuneki ube khona nangaliphi na ixesha; awuyiyo iglu yendalo yonke, ke akufuneki ukuba ugcine lonke ubudlelwane ngokugqibeleleyo.
Abanye abantu kufuneka banqunyulwe xa kuyimfuneko; intsebenziswano ethile kufuneka ilibaziseke xa kuyimfuneko; ezinye iimeko akufanele zinyanzeliswe ukuba unako ukuziphepha.
Abantu abakrelekrele babekela abantu ixesha nezinto ezinentsingiselo kubo.
Ukuqukumbela
Ubugcisa bobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abukho "ekwandiseni" kodwa "kuhluzo." Ngubani ozimisele ukwenza abahlobo abasondeleyo kunye nokusebenzisana naye umisela icala lokuhamba kwamandla akho, umda ophezulu wokuqonda kwakho, kunye nendlela yobomi bakho.
Unxibelelwano oluphambili lwentlalo alunakuze "imidibanisoUbubanzi", kodwa "intsimi yamagnetic elungileyo".
Ndihlala ndisithi: Ubudlelwane abufezekiswa ngokusebenza nzima, kodwa ngokuhlolwa.
Ngamana ungaba namehlo acacileyo kwaye unengqondo ecacileyo kunxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu; Lumka usebenzisana nawe, ungaphinde umangaliswe yimbonakalo yabantu, kwaye ungabi sazikhathaza ngembono yakho yehlabathi.
Ngamana bonke ubudlelwane bakho bungakuzisela uvuyo; Ngamana zonke intsebenziswano zakho zingaba nexabiso elilinganayo kunye neendlela ezimbini.
Isishwankathelo sokugqibela
- Abantu abaneembono ezahlukeneyo abanakusebenza kunye: Ukuba awuyithandi, musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho;
- Musa ukubathemba abantu ngokulula: Emva kwemfezeko, kusenokubakho isiqhelo;
- Ixesha lityhila ubuntu bokwenene bomntu: Ukuthembeka kokwenyani kufuna ixesha lokuqinisekiswa;
- Ukuthandana ngumbuzo onokukhetha okuninzi, hayi umbuzo ofunekayo;
- Intsebenziswano kufuneka icothe kwaye ingaxhwilwa bubuntu,
👀 Ukuba ufuna ukwenza ubomi bakho bube lula, ungavumeli abantu ababi bathathe inethiwekhi yakho; 🚀 Ukuba ufuna ukuya phambili ngentsebenziswano, thatha imbono yexesha elide kwaye ungangxami ukuvulela abanye isifuba.
Ukhetho olwenzayo ngoku lumisela ikamva lakho elizayo. Ukuhlola abantu sisakhono kubantu abadala; ukwazi abantu bobona bulumko bokuphila.
Ke ngoko, ukuba ngumntu ozimiseleyo, ukuhlola abantu ngononophelo, kunye nokusebenzisana ngononophelo zezona ndlela zokwenyani zokuba ngophumeleleyo.
Ndiyathemba Chen Weiliang Blog ( https://www.chenweiliang.com/ ) kwabelwana "Indlela yokunciphisa ukusetyenziswa kobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu? Ukuchonga ngokukhawuleza imigibe enokubakho yentsebenziswano, iingcali zisebenzisa ezi zindlela ze-3", ezinokuba luncedo kuwe.
Wamkelekile ukwabelana ngekhonkco leli nqaku:https://www.chenweiliang.com/cwl-33054.html