Kuyini ukuthumba okuziphethe kahle?Indlela yokubhekana nokwenqaba ukuthunjwa ngokuziphatha?

Labo abaphethwe yizifo ezicindezelayo bayothi ngokungazi "ukuzibulala" ukuze baphoqe abanye lapho esinye sezidingo zabo singenakufezwa.Lokhu kuziphatha kubizwa ngokuthi "ukuthunjwa kokuziphatha".

• Sidinga ukwenqaba ngamabomu ukuthunjwa ngokwesimilo ngokwesimo.

Kuyini ukuthumba okuziphethe kahle?

Okubizwa ngokuthi ukuthumba okunokuziphatha kubhekisela esimweni lapho abantu basebenzisa izindinganiso ezeqisayo noma ezingezona ezingokoqobo ukuze baphoqe noma bahlasele abanye, futhi bathonye ukuziphatha kwabo egameni lokuziphatha.

Isazi esikhulu uConfucius sathi: "Kuyathethelela! Ungakwenzi kwabanye lokho ongafuni ukukwenza kuwe."

Akukona ukwenza into ongafuni ukuyenza komunye umuntu, ungaphoqi abanye.

Ngakho, uma ngithanda ukwenza okuthile, ngingakusebenzisa kwabanye abantu?

• Lokho ocabanga ukuthi kuhle kungase kungathandwa ngabanye.
• Isibonelo, abanye abantu bathanda ukudla i-durian, kanti abanye abantu abakwazi ukumelana nokunambitheka okukhethekile kwe-durian.
• Akuyona into enhle uma unikeza ama-durians kubantu abangawathandi ama-durians.

Ngakho-ke, yenza lokho ongafuni ukukwenza kwabanye ngokucophelela.

Entweni ojabulela ukuyenza, kufanele futhi ucabangisise ukuthi ingabe abanye abantu bangakwamukela yini.

Isibonelo sakudala sokuthunjwa kokuziphatha

Insizwa ethile yayikhathele kakhulu emsebenzini futhi ayizange isinike isihlalo sayo kumuntu oneminyaka engu-70 ubudala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi yasolwa ikhehla ngokuthi iziphethe kabi.

Kunini lapho isinyathelo sethu sokuvumela isihlalo sibe ukuthumba okunokuziphatha?Wonke umuntu unezinqumo zakhe, wonke umuntu unezidingo zakhe okufanele abhekane nazoImpilo, Uma usolwa ngokuziphatha okubi ngenxa nje yesihlalo esisodwa, ingabe ukuziphatha akukona okunciphile kakhulu?

Kufanele sihloniphe amakhehla kodwa akusho ukuthi singathembela kwabadala sidayise amakhehla, njengekhehla uma abanye sebekwazi ukuhlonipha nathi kumele sibonge, phela njengomuntu ongamazi unakho akukho sibopho sokusiza.Ngesikhathi esifanayo nalokhu kuthunjwa kokuziphatha, ingabe ikhehla lilungile?

Wonke umuntu omusha ubhekana nempilo esheshayo nsuku zonke, futhi ingcindezi yomsebenzi iphezulu kakhulu.Ezinye ezabazali, ezinye zothando, ezinye zomndeni, ezinye izingane.Kukhona abadala nabancane, futhi zonke izinsuku zibhekene ikusasa elingalindelekile.Kufanele adedele isihlalo sakhe ekhehleni, kodwa akulona iqiniso.

Wonke umuntu osemusha unabo abazali, futhi bonke babengamagugu ezandleni zabazali bakhe.Ake ngibuze, izalukazi nazo zinezingane, uma zihlangana nesimo esinjena ngaphandle, zingazizwa kanjani?Lizwani ikhehla uma nalo lisolwa ngokungaziphathi kahle?

Okudingwa yilowo nalowo kithi ukulingana, ukubonga kanye nenhlonipho, noma kunini ngicela ungathumbi ukuziphatha kahle, ngoba umuntu oqotho ngempela akaceli abanye ukuba benze okuthile, kodwa abanye bayamenzela.

Isingathekiso sokuthunjwa kokuziphatha

Ukuthumba ukuze kubeke umuntu ezingeni eliphezulu kufana nokukhipha umuntu esixukwini ukuze ame endaweni ephakeme bese usebenzisa i-tweeter ukuze amemeze esixukwini esingezansi:

"Bheka le ndoda esiteji, ingumuntu ongenabugovu ozinikele ekusizeni abanye. Uma uhlangabezana nanoma yibuphi ubunzima, ubophekile ngokuphelele ukusiza. Ukuzinikela kwakhe ngokuzidela kudinga ukuhlonishwa nokufunda, Isibonelo esihle sokuziphatha kwenkathi entsha. ”

Eqinisweni, lo muntu angase abe umuntu nje ovamile owenza izenzo ezinhle kwabanye ngezikhathi ezithile futhi ubanjwe engenacala ukuze abe isibonelo.

Khona-ke wayehlala ngaphansi kokubhekwa kwawo wonke umuntu nsuku zonke.

Futhi, uma othile emcela usizo, wayengeke akwazi ukwenqaba.

Kungenjalo, abantu bazothi: Uyisibonelo sokuziphatha okuhle, kufanele ungisize, ngaphandle kwalokho, ungakufanelekela kanjani ukuhlonishwa yiwo wonke umuntu ngawe?Futhi ungaphila kanjani ngokuvumelana namagama athi "isibonelo sokuziphatha".

Kuze kube manje, indoda empofu ithunjwe ukuziphatha.Nakuba ayemanqikanqika, kwadingeka aphile ngaphansi kwesithunzi sesibonelo esihle, enze izinto ayengafuni ukuzenza, ngisho nokulahlekelwa nguye.

Lokhu kungikhumbuza "bamba imodeli bese usetha ibhentshimark" kuleyo minyaka.

Ungakugwema kanjani ukuthunjwa ukuziphatha?

Ngakho-ke, ungakugwema kanjani ukuthunjwa ukuziphatha?

Ngaphansi kwezimo ezivamile, nakuba ngenza okuthile okuzuzisayo ukuze ngisize abanye, angizibeki esikhundleni esiphakeme, kodwa angisoze ngaziphoxa ngendinganiso yesibonelo sokuziphatha okuhle.

Icala lokwenqaba ukuthunjwa kokuziphatha

Uma umuntu esesabisa ngokuthi uzosiyeka isihlalo sethu ngokuthumba isimilo ngesizathu sokuthi "uyinsizwa, kufanele unikeze ikhehla isihlalo sami".

Khona-ke, singasho lokhu:

"Ngiyaxolisa, angisiyo imodeli yokuziphatha, ngingumuntu ozicabangelayo, ukuzicabangela kuyimvelo yomuntu, ngicela ungabi nolwazi olufana nolwami."

Ngokuvamile, ukuthunjwa okungokokuziphatha kungokwalabo abafuna ukuba nomona wabanye futhi besaba ukuthi bazobhekwa njengabanokuziphatha okubi.

Uma nje uzimisele ukuzehlisa futhi wenze sengathi nginjena, unamathele emibonweni yami, ungakhululeka ekuthunjweni kokuziphatha.

"Ngenxa yokuthi umhlaba uphansi, uqukethe zonke izinto; ngoba iCanghai iphansi, iqukethe amakhulu emifula."

Ngimane ngiyiconsi olwandle, pho kungani ngizibeka endaweni ephakeme kangaka futhi nginikeze abanye ithuba lokuthumba ngokuziphatha?

Njengoba ngingafuni ukuthunjwa ngokuziphatha, ngibuye ngizikhumbuze ukuthi ngingazibandakanyi ekuthumbeni abantu ngokuziphatha kahle.

Lokhu okubizwa ngokuthi "ungakwenzi kwabanye lokho ongafuni ukukwenza kuwe", iqiniso leli.