Chen Weiliang: He rite te hokohoko moroiti ki te korerorero (whakaaro tane VS aratau whakaaro wahine)

Chen Weiliang : He rite te hokohoko iti ki te tīmatanga o tētahi kōrero

Whakaaro tane vs tauira whakaaro wahine

Ina korero tetahi tama ki tetahi kotiro kee ka hiahia kia pa atu, ka tino whakahē te wahine.

Ahakoa kei te ipurangi, kei te tuimotu ranei, mena kaore koe i te mohio ki a koe i te tuatahi, me tupato koe ki a koe.

Nga ahuatanga o te whakaaro tane me te wahine

Na, me mohio tatou ki te whakaaro o nga tane me nga whakaaro o nga wahine:

1. Ko te whakaaro o te tane ka kaha ki te whakaoti rapanga.

2. Ko te ahuatanga o te whakaaro wahine he ngawari ake te aro ki nga ahuatanga o naianei, tera pea ko te korero mo nga mea o mua, kaua e anga atu ki nga wa kei te heke mai, me te tohu raruraru.

Ko te tikanga, kei a ia tangata enei ahuatanga e rua o te hinengaro, a he rereke pea nga ahuatanga o te hinengaro i roto i nga ahuatanga rereke.

Mena he ahua nui te mataaratanga, kei te ahua o te whakaaro o te tane; mena kei te ahua o te whakaaro o te wahine, ka pai ake te korero a tera taha ki a koe a muri ake nei, me tuku e tera taha te tiaki i a koe. koe, a ka taea e koe te korero tahi, katahi koe ka rite te whakaaro ki tera tangata.

Heoi, i etahi wa ka hiahiatia etahi huringa kaha, a koinei te ahuatanga pono.

Hei tauira, i kite ahau i tetahi porowhita o nga hoa e kii ana i kii oku matua kei te mamae o te tuara o raro me o ratou waewae, engari i kii tetahi atu kua ngaro ratou i o ratau matua, kaua ki te omaoma ki te whakaoti rapanga (he whakaaro wahine tenei).

Korerohia etahi kupu mo tenei kaupapa i te tuatahi, ka kaha te huri o tera taha, na te mea ko te korerorero tawhito, ka hoha ano tera taha, na te mea ka whakatauritea ki nga tangata ke, i etahi wa ka kaha ake te whakaaro o te tane.

Hei tauira, ka pātaihia pea tētahi e hoko ana i ngā miraka wiri mā WeChat : He haumaru tō miraka wiri? He pānga taha? He tino kaha ngā matū kei roto? (E whakaata ana tēnei i te hinengaro tāne noa.)

Mena kei te mau tonu tō whakaaro ki te tāne: I kī koe he pānga taha tō ngā miraka wiri katoa, engari kāore tō mātou (e kore pea tēnei momo kōrero e angitu).

He āhua ngawari, he āhua haumaru hoki te hinengaro o te wahine: ka taea e koe te aro atu ki te hinengaro o te wahine. Inaa, he maha ngā tāngata e whai ana i tēnei tauira i a rātou e kōrerorero ana—tīmata me ētahi kōrero noa, kātahi ka tae ki te kaupapa matua.

Engari tera pea i mahia e ia i runga i te pohehe i mua, a mena kei a koe tenei whakaaro, ka rereke nga ahuatanga o te whakaaro o te tane me te whakaaro wahine ki roto i te korerorero.

I te wa e korero ana, mena ka mahi tahi koe me te whakawhiti, ka pai ake pea te paanga.

XNUMX. Mēnā he ātete, he whakahē rānei tērā taha, me whakaū i te tuatahi

Mena kei te parepare te taha ki a koe, kei te whakakahore ranei i a koe, ko te mahi tinihanga i tenei wa ko te 100% tino mohio ki te ahua o tera taha, hei tauira: "Te ngaro o te taumaha, he uaua rawa tenei, kare e taea e au te pupuri. it" (koinei te mahi a te whakaaro wahine, kaua e whakaotia Karekau he tikanga o te patai)

I muri mai, ka taea e koe te whakakoi i te rerenga korero "He tino uaua ki te ngaro i te taumaha ma te whakapakari tinana", katahi koe ka kii: Kei te inu matou, kaore he mamae nui, kaore matou e hiahia kia manawanui, he tino nui. ngawari, he maha nga taangata kua tino noho humarie kua oti.

Hei tauira: ki te whakaaro te wahine he paanga taha tenei miraka, me matua mohio koe he maha nga huarahi ki te ngaro i te taumaha i runga i te maakete he nui nga paanga ...

He tino ngawari ki te whakakoi i tera taha i te tuatahi, katahi ka whakapuaki i muri mai.Heoi ano, he maha nga tangata kaore i te mohio ki tenei, a, he rite tonu tana aro ki te whakahē a tera taha.

Hei tauira, ki te kii tetahi atu, "He uaua ki te whakaheke taumaha," ka kii koe, "Kaore he uaua ki te whakaheke taumaha." He whakahē tika tenei.

Heoi, ki te whakakoi i te tuatahi kei te tika ia, katahi ka whakakahore i muri mai, he rereke te hua.

XNUMX. Kaua e takahi i te taumata o nga korero tauhou

I roto i te mahi ki te mahi tahi me te tangata ke, me te whakapumautanga i te taunga, he maha nga tangata e tino pukumahi ana, me te ahua nei he tino mohio tetahi ki tetahi.

Ko te mea pono, ko te hononga i whakapumautia i waenga i nga taangata he ahunga whakamua ma te taahiraa:

Mai i te timatanga ki te noho tauhou, katahi ka whai whakaaro pai i te tuatahi, katahi ka whakapakari i te whakawhirinaki, ka puta te whakawhitiwhiti whakaaro kare, katahi ka noho hei hoa pai, he hononga kee ranei, me penei te haere whakamua.

1. Ko te kohi kotiro ko te nuinga o nga korero mo te huarahi ki te kohi korero I mua, ka kii ia "Kia ora! Ka taea e au te mohio ki a koe?".

Mena ka patai tetahi atu: "He aha koe i hiahia ai ki te whakahoa ki a koe" (he korero tenei)

2. Ko te tikanga kia mohio tetahi ki tetahi, katahi ka ki atu, "Mehemea ka taea, ka pirangi au hei hoa mou."

3. Mena karekau he whakahē, ka taea e koe te kii "Katahi ka korero tatou i te wa e hikoi ana!"

(Kaore i te tono tika i tera taha ki te inu kawhe tika, he pekepeke tenei)

4. Me noho i muri i te hikoi mo etahi wa, ka mohio koe he ahua pai te korero, ka taea e koe te ki atu, "Ki te kore koe e mahi, he kawhe, ka noho tatou mo te XNUMX meneti, me pehea te kapu. o te kawhe?"

(Me penei te korero, me kii tuatahi "Me korero tatou i te wa e hikoi ana", kaua e tika "Me inu kawhe", he pekepeke tenei)

5. Ka whakaaro koe he pai tenei korero i a koe e hikoi ana, ka kii koe ki nga tangata me rapu he waahi noho ai ki te inu kapu kawhe, me hoatu he wa, penei i te XNUMX meneti, kia tino pai te powhiri. he marama, he wa ano.

Mena he pai to korerorero, ka taea e koe te whakapau neke atu i nga meneti XNUMX. Mena kaore koe i te tino mohio ka taea e koe te korero pai, ki te hoatu e koe tenei wa, ka tino haumaru tetahi atu.

总结

1. Ki te kino te korero a tera taha, katahi ka whakahēhia e matou i te tuatahi, katahi ka whakakahore.

2. I te wā kāore anō kia whakaipoipo, me mārama tātou ki ngā rohe ina tūtaki tātou ki ngā tāngata tauhou, ina kimi hoa, ina hokohoko WeChat , ina mahi pakihi rānei. Me whakawhanake aua whanaungatanga i ia taahiraa. Ki te haere rawa tātou, ka whanake te wairua ātete o te taha kē.

3. Pērā anō hoki mō te whakatairanga ipurangi ; e kore e taea te angitu i roto i te pō kotahi. Me haere tonu koe i ia taahiraa, i ia taahiraa kia whiwhi ai i ngā hua e pai ana.