[Buku Lotsogolera Kukweza Mtengo Wosinthira] Sinthani mawu 10 awa kuti muwonjezere kwambiri momwe malonda anu amagwirira ntchito.

Njira Yolankhulira Yapamwamba: Mawu 10 Osinthira Kuti Muwonjezere Aura Yanu

Kodi mukudziwa kuti anthu ambiri sataya chifukwa cha kusowa kwawo luso, koma chifukwa cha nthawi yomwe amatsegula pakamwa pawo?

Chiganizo chimodzi chingakweze udindo wanu nthawi yomweyo kuntchito komanso m'malo ochezera.

Lero ndifotokoza mwachidule mawu 10 ofala a aura yotsika ndikukupatsani njira zina zosinthira zomwe zikugwirizana nazo.

Mukadziwa bwino luso lolankhulana, mudzadzipeza mukulankhula molimba mtima, ndipo ena adzakhala ofunitsitsa kugwirizana nanu.

1. "Zikomo chifukwa cha thandizo lanu" → "Muli pano, nkhaniyi yatha!"

"Zikomo chifukwa cha thandizo lanu" zikumveka ngati wina ali ndi ngongole kwa inu, ndipo kamvekedwe kake ndi kodzichepetsa.

Kuyika mawu akuti "Ndili pano, nkhaniyi ndi yotetezeka" nthawi yomweyo kumasonyeza kudalirika ndi kuvomereza.

Munthu winayo sadzamva kuti mukumupempha; m'malo mwake, adzamvetsera kwambiri chifukwa amadziona kuti ndi wofunika.

Ichi ndi chinsinsi chokweza maubwenzi ofanana pakati pa anthu.

2. "Kodi izi ndi zabwino kwa inu?" → "Tidzatsimikizira pofika Lachisanu, kodi zili bwino kwa inu?"

Mukapempha thandizo, chinthu choipa kwambiri chomwe mungachite ndi kukhala wofooka ndi wogonjera.

Kufunsa kuti "Kodi izi ndi zabwino kwa inu?" kumakupangitsani kuwoneka ngati mukukayikakayika.

M'malo mwake, nenani kuti, "Titsimikizira pofika Lachisanu. Kodi zili bwino?" Izi zikupereka nthawi yomveka bwino pamene mukulemekeza maganizo a chipani china.

Kunena motere kumakupangitsani kuoneka ngati akatswiri komanso odalirika, ndipo kumachititsa kuti ena azigwirizana nanu mosavuta.

3. "Sindingathe kuchita, sindili woyenera" → "Ndiyesa kaye, ndipo tonse tidzakonza pamodzi!"

Ngati muyamba mwa kudzikana nokha, ena adzakunyozani mwachibadwa.

Ngakhale simukudziwa bwino, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "tiyeni tiyese".

"Ndiyesa kaye, ndipo tonse tidzagwira ntchito limodzi kuti tikonze"—mawu awa akusonyeza chidaliro komanso mzimu wogwirizana.

Aura inasintha nthawi yomweyo.

4. "Zimene ndikunena mwina sizingakhale zolondola" → "Ndikufuna kugawana lingaliro, ndipo ndikulandira aliyense kuti akambirane limodzi."

Ngati muchita mantha pa siteji musanatsegule pakamwa panu, ngakhale malingaliro anu akhale abwino bwanji, sadzakhala ndi vuto lililonse.

M'malo mwake, nenani kuti "Ndikufuna kugawana lingaliro, ndipo aliyense ali olandiridwa kuti tikambirane limodzi." Izi ndi zopatsa komanso zotseguka.

Zimapewa kuwoneka ngati wankhanza pamene zikupitirizabe kukhala ndi mwayi wabwino pabwalo.

Umu ndi momwe anthu omwe ali ndi nzeru zambiri zamaganizo amafotokozera.

5. "Chilichonse, chili bwino" → "Ndimakonda iyi, mutha kuigwiritsa ntchito"

Ngati nthawi zonse umanena kuti "chirichonse," anthu amangoganiza kuti ulibe maganizo.

M'malo mwake, sinthani kuti "Ndimakonda iyi, mutha kuitchula," yomwe imafotokoza maganizo anu pamene mukusiya mpata woti mutanthauzire.

Ena angaganize kuti muli ndi malire ndi malingaliro.

Uwu ndi mtundu wa kulankhulana komwe kumafuna ulemu.

6. "Pepani kwambiri, pepani kwambiri" → "Zikomo nonse chifukwa chondiyembekezera"

Palibe chifukwa chopepesa mobwerezabwereza pa zolakwa zazing'ono.

"Zikomo nonse chifukwa chondiyembekezera," adatero, akusandutsa kudzimva kwake wolakwa kukhala kuyamikira.

Ndi yolemekezeka komanso yopatsa, nthawi yomweyo imakulitsa malingaliro a munthu.

Ena sadzakuonani ngati ndinu otsika.

7. "Sindingathe kupezeka" → "Ndikufuna kuthandiza, koma nthawi yanga yogwirira ntchito ndi yodzaza ndi zinthu."

Musamanene zinthu mopanda tanthauzo mukakana.

Kunena kuti “mwina sindingapezeke” kumakupangitsani kuoneka ngati ndinu wosakhulupirika.

M'malo mwake, nenani kuti "Ndikufuna kuthandiza, koma nthawi yanga ndi yodzaza," zomwe zimasonyeza kufunitsitsa kwanu poika malire.

Anthu sadzangokupatsani mlandu, komanso adzakulemekezani kwambiri.

8. "Koma..." → "Ndiloleni ndipereke lingaliro lina, mvetserani."

Mawu oti "koma" akumveka ngati kukana.

Kusintha kukhala "Ndiloleni ndipereke lingaliro lina, mvetserani" nthawi yomweyo kumachepetsa kamvekedwe kake kwambiri.

Malingaliro amalandiridwa mosavuta, ndipo kulankhulana kumakhala kosavuta.

Uwu ndi mphamvu ya chilankhulo.

9. "Ayi, ayi, sindili bwino mokwanira" → "Zikomo chifukwa cha kuvomereza kwanu, ndikusangalala kwambiri!"

Kudzichepetsa kwambiri ukayamikiridwa kumangopangitsa kuti uoneke ngati wosatetezeka.

Kudzidalira kwambiri ndiko kulandira ulemu mowolowa manja.

"Zikomo chifukwa cha kuvomereza kwanu, ndasangalala kwambiri!" Iye sanali wodzikuza kapena wamanyazi.

Ena ali ofunitsitsa kupitiriza kukuvomerezani.

10. "Kodi mungatani...?" → "Ndili ndi chidaliro chonse chosiyira gawo ili kwa inu."

Mukapereka ntchito, kamvekedwe ka mawu anu ndi komwe kamatsimikizira zotsatira zake.

"Kodi mungatero...?" zinamveka ngati pempho.

Kuyika mawu akuti "Ndikumva bwino kwambiri ndikusiyirani gawo ili" ndi njira yoperekera uthenga pogwiritsa ntchito chidaliro.

Mwa kuwapatsa nkhope ndi kusonyeza chidaliro, mbali inayo imakhala yokonzeka kuchita zonse zomwe ingathe.

Pomaliza: Aura si yachibadwa, koma imakula.

Kulankhula kwanu kumasonyeza mmene ena amakuonerani komanso momwe mungapitirire patsogolo.

Mafomula osinthira awa kwenikweni ndi okhudza kusintha kamvekedwe kodzichepetsa ndi mawonekedwe odzidalira, aukatswiri, komanso ofanana.

Chilankhulo ndi chiwonetsero chakunja cha malingaliro, ndipo aura ndi chiwonetsero cha umunthu.

Kudziwa bwino njira zamakono zolankhulira kudzakuthandizani kukhala ndi mphamvu zambiri pantchito yanu komanso pa moyo wanu.

Kumbukirani: Munthu wamphamvu weniweni si amene ali ndi mawu okweza kwambiri, koma amene angalimbikitse ena kuti atsatire mofunitsitsa.

Chidule chomaliza:

• Kupezeka kwa munthu kumachokera mu kalankhulidwe kake, osati kuchuluka kwa mawu ake.
• Sinthani mawu okoma mtima ndi odzichepetsa ndi mawu osonyeza kudalirana, mgwirizano, ndi ukatswiri.
• Fomula iliyonse yosinthira ndi chida chokuthandizani kukhala odzidalira komanso odalirika.
• Kulankhulana mozama kwambiri sikukhudza kukakamiza ena, koma kumalimbikitsa ena kuti azimenyana nanu.

Kuyambira tsopano, sankhani mawu amodzi kapena awiri omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri a mowa wochepa ndipo nthawi yomweyo muwasinthe ndi njira zapamwamba.

Mudzadabwa kuona kuti maganizo a anthu ena pa inu amasinthadi.

Kukhalapo kolamula sikutanthauza kunyenga, koma kudzidalira ndi bata zomwe zimaonekera m'mawu a munthu.

Dziwani luso lolankhula, ndipo mudzatsegula zinsinsi zomwe mungakhudze.