Buku Lokwanira Lothandizira Kusintha Zinthu: Kufotokozera Kwatsatanetsatane kwa Njira Zopambana za Trump, kuyambira Kukonzekera Zamaganizo mpaka Kugwiritsa Ntchito Mabizinesi Othandiza

Njira Yopambana ya Trump: Maganizo Osinthira Kutayika Kukhala Kupambana

Kupambana sikutanthauza zotsatira zake, koma kuganizira zinthu mozama.

Kodi "Maphunziro Opambana" ndi chiyani?

Mawu akuti "Kupambana Sayansi" amachokera ku njira ya Trump yolamulira.MafilosofiMosasamala kanthu za zotsatira zake, nthawi zonse amatha kuyendetsa makambiranowo kukhala "Ndapambana."

Maganizo amenewa, poyera, akuoneka ngati odzipangira okha, koma kwenikweni ndi njira yosinthira maganizo. Amasunga munthu mu malingaliro a "wopambana", kuteteza zopinga kuti zisamugonjetse.

Kafukufuku wa zamaganizo akusonyeza kuti kukonzanso bwino maganizo kungachepetse kwambiri nkhawa ndi kuvutika maganizo (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Handbook, Oxford University Press). Mwa kuyankhula kwina, poyang'ana mavuto kuchokera mbali ina, mutha kusintha kulephera kukhala zokumana nazo ndi zopinga kukhala kukula.

N’chifukwa chiyani anthu wamba nawonso amafunika kuphunzira momwe angapambanire?

MoyoM'moyo, nthawi zambiri timakumana ndi zovuta. Kufooka pantchito, kukhumudwa m'maganizo, kusamvetsetsedwa bwino ... ngati titayang'ana m'malingaliro achikhalidwe, zonsezi ndi "zotayika."

Komabe, ngati tigwiritsa ntchito mfundo yopambana, tingapeze njira "yopambana" nthawi iliyonse tikakumana ndi vuto.

monga:

• Kugwa pantchito? Umenewo ndi mwayi wopumula ndikuchira.
• Simukupeza ndalama? Mwapeza chidziwitso ndi maubwenzi.
• Kodi mwagwera mumsampha? Mwapewanso wina waukulu pambuyo pake.

Maganizo amenewa amathandiza anthu kukhala ndi chiyembekezo komanso kupewa kudzikayikira.

Mfundo yaikulu ya njira zopambana: kusintha kwa chidziwitso

Chofunika kwambiri pakupambana chili pakusintha kwa chidziwitso.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Martin Seligman adapereka lingaliro la "maganizo abwino," akugogomezera kuti anthu akhoza kudzikonza okha mwa kutanthauzira bwino.okondwakuzindikira (Chimwemwe Chenicheni, 2002).

Kupambana maganizo ndi njira yogwiritsira ntchito maganizo abwino. Zimatipangitsa kufotokozeranso vuto lililonse ngati "kupambana".

Mwachitsanzo:

• Kudzudzulidwa ndi bwana wanu? Umenewo ndi maphunziro aulere a munthu ndi munthu.
• Anthu ena sangakhale ndi mwayi? Akhoza kukhala aphunzitsi anu a moyo.
• Kodi mukumvetsa molakwika? Zimenezo zikukuthandizani kuthetsa ubale wopanda khalidwe.

Zochitika zogwiritsira ntchito chiphunzitso chopambana

Luso Lopambana Kuntchito

Mu kampani, kutsutsidwa ndi kukakamizidwa n'kosapeweka. Kupeza mwayi wopeza ntchito kungakuthandizeni kusintha kukakamizidwa kumeneku kukhala chilimbikitso chakukula.

Mwachitsanzo, ngati polojekiti yalephera, munganene kuti, "Tapeza luso lamtengo wapatali ndipo tidzakhala odalirika nthawi ina."

Khalidwe limeneli silimangokuthandizani kukhala ndi chiyembekezo, komanso limakupangitsani kuti muzindikirike ndi gulu lanu.

Kupambana mu Ubale ndi Anthu

Mukukomana ndi anthu otsutsa ndi otsutsa? Kuphunzira bwino kumakuuzani kuti: Kuwaletsa ndi kuwateteza, komanso kudziteteza nokha.

Kafukufuku wa zamaganizo akusonyeza kuti kuchepetsa kukhudzidwa ndi mphamvu zoipa kungathandize kwambiri kukhala ndi chimwemwe (Journal of Positive Psychology, 2015).

Chifukwa chake, kupambana sikuti kungodzisangalatsa wekha, komanso...SayansiKusintha kwa maganizo.

Kupambana mu Moyo Wamaganizo

Mukukumana ndi kusweka mtima muunyamata wanu? Yankho kuchokera ku "Winning Strategies" ndi: Pezani chikondi chatsopano mwachangu. Chifukwa mwayambanso moyo watsopano.

Maganizo amenewa angathandize anthu kutuluka mwachangu mumthunzi ndikupewa kuvutika kwa nthawi yayitali.

Ubwino wa nzeru za Kupambana

Kupambana si luso la maganizo lokha, komanso ndi nzeru.

Limagogomezera kuti palibe kulephera kwenikweni m'moyo, koma pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya chigonjetso.

Filosofi imeneyi imafanana ndi maganizo a Stoiki. Stoiki ankakhulupirira kuti ngakhale kuti zinthu zakunja sizingalamuliridwe, maganizo a munthu amatha kulamuliridwa. Filosofi yopambana imalamulira maganizo kwambiri.

Zoopsa ndi Malire a Maphunziro Opambana

Inde, palinso zoopsa zomwe zimafunika pophunzira momwe mungapambanire.

Kugwiritsa ntchito mopitirira muyeso kungapangitse anthu kunyalanyaza mavuto enieni. Mwachitsanzo, lingaliro lodzitonthoza loti "mwapeza chidziwitso" pamene mukuvutika ndi kutayika kwa nthawi yayitali lingakulepheretseni kusintha.

Choncho, kuphunzira momwe mungapambanire kuyenera kuphatikizidwa ndi kuchitapo kanthu. Kusintha kwa chidziwitso ndi gawo loyamba lokha; kusintha koyenera kumafunikanso pambuyo pake.

Maganizo anga: Kupambana ndi chida choganizira.

Ngakhale sindimakonda Trump, ndiyenera kuvomereza kuti njira zake zopambana zili ndi phindu lapadera.

Zimakusungani mu malingaliro "opambana" ndipo zimakutetezani kuti musagonjetsedwe ndi zopinga.

Mu nthawi ino ya kusatsimikizika, njira zopambana ndi chida chamaganizo. Zimatithandiza kukhalabe ndi chiyembekezo m'mavuto ndikupeza mphamvu m'kati mwa kutaya mtima.

Monga momwe Nietzsche ananenera, "Chimene sichindipha chimandipangitsa kukhala wamphamvu." Kupambana ndi mtundu wamakono wa mzimu umenewu.

Kutsiliza: Mphamvu Yopambana

Phindu lalikulu la Chiphunzitso Chopambana lili pakusintha chilichonse cholephera kukhala chigonjetso ndi kulephera kulikonse kukhala kukula.

Si nkhani yothawa, koma yokhudza kufotokozanso tanthauzo lake.

Si kudzinyenga, koma kudzipatsa mphamvu.

Mu ngodya iliyonse ya moyo, tingagwiritse ntchito Mfundo Zopambana kuti tisinthe maganizo athu ndikuwonjezera chisangalalo chathu.

Chifukwa chake, nzeru yopambana si ulamuliro wa Trump wokha, koma maganizo omwe munthu aliyense wamba angathe kuwamvetsa.

Chofunika kwambiri pakupambana: Palibe masewera otayika m'moyo, koma pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana yopambana.

Chitanipo kanthu ndikugwiritsa ntchito njira zopambana pa moyo wanu, zomwe zimapangitsa tsiku lililonse kukhala mutu wopambana.