[Umhlahlandlela Wokukhulisa Izinga Lokuguqulwa] Shintsha lawa mabinzana ayi-10 ukuze ukhuphule kakhulu ukusebenza kwakho kokuthengisa.

Ifomula yokukhuluma ethuthukisiwe: imishwana eyi-10 yokufaka esikhundleni ukuze uphindaphinde kabili i-aura yakho

Ubuwazi ukuthi abantu abaningi abalahlekelwa ngenxa yokuntula ikhono, kodwa ngenxa yesikhathi abavula ngaso imilomo yabo?

Umusho owodwa ungaphakamisa isikhundla sakho ngokushesha emsebenzini nasezimweni zomphakathi.

Namuhla ngizochaza izindlela eziyishumi ezivamile zokubonakaliswa kwe-aura ephansi bese ngininika amafomula okufaka esikhundleni athuthukile ahambisanayo.

Uma usuwazi kahle la makhono okuxhumana, uzozithola ukhuluma ngokuzethemba okwengeziwe, futhi abanye bazovuma kakhulu ukubambisana nawe.

1. "Ngiyabonga ngosizo lwakho" → "Njengoba ulapha, lolu daba seluxazululiwe!"

"Ngiyabonga ngosizo lwakho" kuzwakala sengathi othile unesikweletu kuwe, futhi ithoni ithobekile.

Ukuyishintsha ngokuthi "Uma ulapha, lolu daba luphephile" kuveza ngokushesha ukwethenjwa nokwamukelwa.

Omunye umuntu ngeke azizwe sengathi uyamncenga; kunalokho, uzolalela kakhulu ngoba uzizwa ebalulekile.

Lena imfihlo yokuthuthukisa ubudlelwano obuhambisanayo bube ubudlelwano obulinganayo.

2. "Ingabe lokhu kukulungele?" → "Sizoqinisekisa ngoLwesihlanu, ingabe kulungile kuwe?"

Uma ucela usizo, into embi kakhulu ongayenza ukuba buthakathaka futhi uzithobe.

Ukubuza ukuthi "Ingabe lokhu kukulungele?" kukwenza ubonakale ungabaza.

Kunalokho, yithi, "Sizoqinisekisa ngoLwesihlanu. Kulungile lokho?" Lokhu kunikeza isikhathi esicacile ngenkathi kuhlonipha umbono womunye umuntu.

Ukukusho ngale ndlela kukwenza ubonakale uchwepheshile futhi unokwethenjelwa, futhi kwenza kube lula ngabanye ukubambisana.

3. "Angikwazi ukukwenza, angifaneleki" → "Ngizozama kuqala, futhi sizokuthuthukisa ndawonye!"

Uma uqala ngokuziphika, abanye bazokubukela phansi ngokwemvelo.

Ngisho noma ungaqiniseki, kufanele usebenzise ithoni ethi “ake sizame”.

"Ngizozama kuqala, futhi sonke sizosebenzisana ukuze sikuthuthukise"—lesi sitatimende sibonisa kokubili ukuzethemba kanye nomoya wokubambisana.

I-aura yashintsha ngokushesha.

4. "Engikushoyo kungase kungabi yiqiniso" → "Ngingathanda ukwabelana ngombono, futhi ngiyakwamukela wonke umuntu ukuthi axoxe ngawo ndawonye."

Uma ushaywa uvalo esiteji ungakavuli ngisho nomlomo wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umbono wakho muhle kangakanani, ngeke uthwale noma yisiphi isisindo.

Kunalokho, yithi "Ngingathanda ukwabelana ngombono, futhi wonke umuntu wamukelekile ukuxoxa ngawo ndawonye." Lokhu kunomusa futhi kunengqondo evulekile.

Kugwema ukubonakala unolaka ngenkathi kugcinwa ithuba elihle lokudlala ekhaya.

Lena yindlela abantu abahlakaniphe kakhulu ngokomzwelo abaziveza ngayo.

5. "Noma ngabe yini, kulungile" → "Ngithanda lena, ungayibhekisela kuyo"

Uma uhlala uthi “noma yini,” abantu bazocabanga ukuthi awunawo umbono.

Kunalokho, yishintshe ibe "Ngithanda lena, ungayibhekisa kuyo," eveza umbono wakho ngenkathi ishiya isikhala sokuhumusha.

Abanye bazocabanga ukuthi unemingcele nemibono.

Lolu uhlobo lokuxhumana oludinga inhlonipho.

6. "Ngiyaxolisa kakhulu, ngiyaxolisa kakhulu" → "Ngiyabonga nonke ngokungilinda"

Asikho isidingo sokuxolisa ngokuphindaphindiwe ngamaphutha amancane.

"Ngiyabonga nonke ngokungilinda," esho, ephendula umuzwa wakhe wecala waba ukubonga.

Kuhle futhi kuyaphana, kwandisa umbono womuntu ngokushesha.

Abanye ngeke bacabange ukuthi uphansi.

7. "Ngingase ngingatholakali" → "Ngingathanda ukusiza, kodwa isimiso sami sigcwele okwamanje."

Ungabi namahloni uma wenqaba.

Ukuthi "Ngingase ngingatholakali" kukwenza ubonakale ungeqotho.

Kunalokho, yithi "Ngingathanda ukusiza, kodwa isimiso sami sigcwele okwamanje," okubonisa ukuzimisela kwakho ngenkathi ubeka imingcele.

Abantu ngeke nje bangakusoli, kodwa futhi bazokuhlonipha kakhulu.

8. "Kodwa..." → "Ake nginikeze omunye umbono, lalela."

Igama elithi "kodwa" lizwakala sengathi liyaphikisana.

Ukuyishintsha ibe "Ake nginikeze omunye umbono, ngiyilalele" kwenza umsindo uthambe kakhulu ngokushesha.

Imibono yamukelwa kalula, futhi ukuxhumana kuyashelela.

Lokhu kungamandla olimi.

9. "Cha, cha, ngisasekude ngokwanele" → "Ngiyabonga ngokungiqinisekisa kwakho, ngijabule kakhulu!"

Ukuthobeka ngokweqile lapho unconywa kumane kukwenza ubonakale ungazethembi.

Uhlobo oluphezulu lokuzethemba ukwamukela ngokukhululekile ukunconywa.

"Ngiyabonga ngokungiqinisekisa kwakho, ngijabule kakhulu!" Wayengaqhoshi futhi enganamahloni.

Abanye bazimisele kakhulu ukuqhubeka nokukwamukela.

10. "Ungakwazi...?" → "Nginethemba eliphelele lokukushiya le ngxenye."

Uma unikeza imisebenzi, ithoni yezwi lakho iyona enquma umphumela.

"Ungakwazi...?" kwakuzwakala sengathi uyancenga.

Ukuyishintsha ngokuthi "Ngizizwa ngiqiniseka kakhulu ngokushiya le ngxenye kuwe" kuyindlela yokuletha okusekelwe ekwethembeni.

Ngokubanika ubuso nokubonisa ukuzethemba, elinye iqembu lizimisele kakhulu ukwenza konke okusemandleni alo.

Ekuphetheni: I-Aura ayizalwa nayo, kodwa ihlakulelwe.

I-aura oyivezayo lapho ukhuluma inquma ukuthi abanye bakubona kanjani nokuthi ungahamba ibanga elingakanani.

Lezi zindlela zokushintshanisa zimayelana nokushintsha ithoni yokuthobeka ngokuzethemba, ngobungcweti, nangokubukeka okufanayo.

Ulimi luwukubonakaliswa kwangaphandle komcabango, kanti i-aura iyisibonakaliso sobuntu.

Ukwazi amasu okukhuluma athuthukile kuzokunikeza umuzwa omkhulu wokulawula kokubili emsebenzini wakho nasempilweni yakho .

Khumbula: Umuntu onamandla angempela akuyena umuntu onezwi elikhulu, kodwa yilowo ongakhuthaza abanye ukuba balandele ngokuzithandela.

Isifinyezo sokugcina:

• Ukuba khona komuntu kuvela endleleni akhuluma ngayo, hhayi ubukhulu bezwi lakhe.
• Shintsha ithoni ekhangayo nethobekile ngezinkulumo zokuthembana, ukubambisana, kanye nobungcweti.
• Ifomula ngayinye yokufaka esikhundleni iyithuluzi lokwenza ube nesibindi futhi ube negunya.
• Ukuxhumana nge-High-EQ akukhona ukuxhaphaza abanye, kodwa kumayelana nokwenza abanye bazimisele ukulwa nawe.

Kusukela manje kuqhubeke, khetha eyodwa noma ezimbili zezindlela ezivame ukusetshenziswa kakhulu zokubonisa umoya ophansi bese uzishintsha ngokushesha ngefomula ephezulu.

Uzomangala ukuthola ukuthi indlela abanye abantu abakubheka ngayo iyashintsha ngempela.

Ukuba khona okunamandla akukhona ukukhohlisa, kodwa kunalokho ukuzethemba nokuzola okuvezwa ngamazwi omuntu.

Yiba uchwepheshe wobuciko bokukhuluma, futhi uzovula izimfihlo zokuthonya.